Quiz Results + Next Steps

Thank you for taking the time to reflect. Simply answering the questions may have brought a greater degree of awareness.

Below, you'll find the pattern your body may be holding, and the invitation that perimenopause is now bringing. Body symptoms can overlap between patterns. What matters most is what emotionally resonates.

✧ A Note Before You Interpret

This quiz is not a label - it’s a mirror. A way of beginning to name the invisible patterns your body may have been holding for decades.

Whether your score is low or high does not reflect your depth, wisdom, or capacity. It reflects the foundation of safety you had access to and what your nervous system needed to do to belong, survive, or feel loved.

A lower score doesn’t mean “nothing happened.” A higher score doesn’t mean you’re broken. Each score range simply reveals a different kind of invitation:
- To unburden what’s been carried.
- To meet yourself with more compassion.
- To begin listening, and living, differently.

Take what resonates. Leave what doesn’t. Your body already knows the way.

✧ Score 24–45

Pattern: The Mask of Okayness / Emotional Compression

You’ve learned to manage. To be fine. To stay composed. There may have been care in your early life - but not enough space for contradiction, complexity, or deep feeling. So you adapted. You became competent. You became low-maintenance. You became reliable. But your body remembers the cost.

How this may show up now:

• You feel like you “shouldn’t complain” when something feels off inside.

• You override tiredness or irritation to keep moving.

• You hold boundaries, but feel guilty for having them.

• You feel emotionally flat - like your shine has dimmed, but you don’t know why.

Perimenopause invitation:

This isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about noticing what you’ve been carrying, and how quietly it’s shaped your body.

→ Can you rest before you’re exhausted?
→ Can you feel without needing to justify it?
→ Can you let your body have a say, even if it contradicts your calendar?

What’s surfacing now is stored intelligence asking to be felt.

✧ Score 46–75

Pattern: High-Functioning Self-Abandonment / Subtle Fawn

You learned to tune into others before you tuned into yourself. To be safe, you became attentive, flexible, emotionally available. You were the peacekeeper, the emotional barometer, the one who could shift shape to avoid rupture. It kept you close to others but far from your own centre.

Now, your body is asking: And what about me?

How this may show up now:

• You say yes without checking in.

• You feel resentment after giving too much.

• You can’t rest without feeling like you’re failing.

• You feel invisible in your own life, even when surrounded by people.

Perimenopause invitation:

This isn’t about swinging to the other extreme. It’s about interrupting the assumption that others come first.

→ Notice when your “yes” feels brittle
→ Track the moment your energy starts to leave your body
→ Let small refusals become sacred acts of re-entry

You are not selfish for tending to yourself. You’re remembering that you belong - to your own life, too.

✧ Score 76–99

Pattern: Deep Bracing / Dissociative Drift

You’ve been surviving in a kind of fog. Not because you’re weak - but because your nervous system learned that numbness was safer than feeling too much.

You did what was needed. You stayed afloat. But somewhere along the way, you lost access to the part of you that knows what you need, what you want, what you even feel.

Now, the fog is thinning and the body is asking for something truer.

How this may show up now:

• You feel exhausted or disconnected for no clear reason.

• You go numb during conflict, then replay it obsessively later.

• You feel flooded by emotion, then suddenly gone again.

• You scroll or overwork to disappear, but it doesn’t bring relief.

Perimenopause invitation:

You don’t need to force your way back into your body. You just need to stop leaving yourself behind.

→ Begin with warmth, not intensity.
→ Let your breath be shallow, but noticed.
→ Choose sensations over strategies.
→ Let your body lead even if all it wants is stillness.

You are not behind. You’re exactly where you had to go to stay safe.
And now, your body is offering you the possibility of homecoming on your terms.

✧ Score 100–120

Pattern: The Raw Edge / Tender Overwhelm

You’re not holding it all together anymore, and that may feel terrifying, disorienting, or strangely honest.
You’ve reached the place where old strategies aren’t working. The mask is slipping. The system is louder than your mind.

You may find yourself erupting or collapsing - without warning. Not because you’re broken, but because the effort to stay composed is simply too much now. You haven’t failed. You’ve outgrown the containment.

How this may show up now:

• You cycle between hyper-alertness and shutdown — overwhelmed by sound, light, emotion

• You cry more easily, or not at all - both feel out of your hands

• Rage simmers or explodes without logic

• You dread things you used to manage

• You fantasise about disappearing - or burning everything down

Body clues:

Pelvic congestion, severe adrenal exhaustion, difficulty digesting food or experience. You may feel too porous, too tired, too wired — all at once.
The body is on high alert, but it’s asking for mercy.

Perimenopause invitation:

This is not collapse. This is breakthrough, but not the shiny, upward kind.
It’s the kind where the body says: no more.
No more managing, performing, carrying what was never yours.

You are not breaking down.
You are being stripped back to what’s true.
And that is sacred, even if it’s messy.

You don’t need another tool right now. You need a rhythm.
→ A hand on your chest.
→ A place you can sob or rage without apology.
→ A way to return, breath by breath, to the place inside you that was never conditioned.

This isn’t a personality problem. It’s the body saying:

I’m ready to live unbraced. But I can’t do it alone.

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And if not now, that’s sacred too. You are not too much. You’re at the edge of something honest.

Next step: Deepen your understanding

To explore these patterns more deeply, download the free guide:

“The Pattern You Carried All Your Life”
Where it came from. How it shaped you. And why it’s surfacing now.

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This is not self-improvement. This is self-remembrance.